How does one get here?
Since I've started writing professionally, many of my readers have asked if this was for real and where do I come up with the stories. My husband John and I live 24/7 in the D&S lifestyle and the majority of my books are based upon personal experience and real life scenerios. When you get to know me- you will discover that I am all of my female characters in one way or another. Somewhat of a brat, independent. mouthy, and not as submissive as I probably should be (which accounts for the reason I'm always in the hot seat here at home).
I've been involved in the scene since the tender age of 17 when I got involved in role-playing games as means to escape a very unhealthy home environment. Little did I know, but it laid a foundation for my future wants and desires. I kept much under wraps over the years- hiding my preference like so many of us do. My ex had no idea about my secret life or the gnawing fantasies- nor could I trust him to honor it. Please note the term EX!
I switched for a number of years as I explored the dynamics of D&S. I was introduced to psuedo age-play (non-sexual) while in the USMC as a personal aide for a base commander. He immediately noticed that I was lost and confused- a young woman alone in a foreign country, lacking direction and self discipline, plus harboring an awful lot of disdain for authority. He took it upon himself to be an 'adopted dad', having had a daughter my age back in the states. His position entitled him to much privacy- but also much criticism. After he received a phone call from a fellow officer regarding his aide's 'inappropriate drunken conduct' at the O-club, my life changed. He retrieved me immediately and, instead of office hours for my misbehavior, I shockingly found myself OTK and SOL (Shit Out Of Luck!). While being comforted afterwards and reassured that I was cared for, I finally accepted my true nature of a submissive. I began my search for answers.
He was my first real Dom and I'm forever grateful for the genuine love and education he gave me as he filled a role in my life that was sadly lacking. He passed away over ten years ago- but his lessons will remain with me forever. He, unknowingly, directed me to what I wanted in a relationship. True D&D and a progression into D&S.
I ran into my incredible husband John over 8 years ago and we struck up an fabulous friendship- with one catch. Our very first outing (a friend date?) ended up with me being upended! I re-discovered the consequences of sass. It was pure heaven to finally meet a man who wasn't afraid to say 'no' and follow through on his threats. Poor guy. Or maybe, poor me. Either way, we met our perfect match and our relationship grew to that beyond friends. I was put through a full submissive training regimen (See Guardian Domination for details) and married three years later. To this day, we are still very much in love and very much in lust- and still growing in our dynamics of a 24/7 D&S lifestyle.
FYI- I never drank to excess since my O-club experience!