In my upcoming book, Guardian Domination, I'm going to be introducing the incredible phenomena known as 'subspace'. I thought it might be a good idea to talk about it so that my readers would better understand the circumstance and sensation that comes with it.
First, Subspace is very, very real..... it's the body's natural defense to pain or stress when the feeling of separation between body and mind occurs. For anyone who runs, has had tattoos, or is into extreme workouts... you will know what I mean. It's that place of being put into auto-pilot when you no longer really feel, just function through the moment.
For a submissive, it is pure heaven.... the endorphins are pumped up to an all-time high and he/she can just embrace the moment when pain becomes pure pleasure. Many of us LOVE the 'after glow' of a good spanking, but HATE the process. Subspace enables us to have the best of both worlds. And Doms/Dommes? It is a sign of pure and absolute trust in you.
QUESTION: Sounds great, but how do I get there?
Just like an athlete (for those of us who are not), we have to work to that point where our body is pushed to the limit of tolerance and then surrender to it. It takes practice... relaxing and not fighting the pain, not fighting the process, resisting the urge to escape and just embrace the moment. It's taken me many years of practice to achieve subspace in a short amount of time... and there are requirements for me to get there. Unfortunately for me, John knows what they are and, when being punished, he makes certain I feel every swat and stroke and deliberately keeps me from going into my 'happy place'.
The best way to learn how to enter this zone is maintaining a slow and steady rhythm without any breaks- starting at the least sensitive point, the crown of the bottom. Gradually build up the intensity without building the speed. Doms/Dommes need to watch their subs closely...looking for signs of relaxation.... buttocks unclenched.... hands unfisted and tucked comfortably under the head... toes uncurled and legs straight, usually with ankles crossed.... no noise except an occasional purrrrrrrr. Allow them to enjoy that moment before increasing the intensity. Moving too quickly or too hard can jar them right out of that place.
It takes time and practice, and a lot of patience.... but it is a special place you can experience if you take the time to discover it. Anyone have any experience they would like to share? Or any questions? Lemme know!